Top 40 Hari Nef Quotes

I used to think I was a gay man with this idea of a muse in my head, like a woman that I thought was inspirational or aspirational. But the woman was actually me.

Sexuality is who you want to be with. Gender identity is who you want to be in the world.

I couldn’t remember when I’d stopped willing to be trans and started wanting to be trans. If there were a difference, I’d forgotten it.

When people ask me what I do, I tell them that I ‘do things in front of people.’ I don’t know why I do what I do. I’ve tried working behind the scenes. I felt left out!

I’m not so fascinated by these ingenue roles. I tend to gravitate towards women in plays or shows or films that are more chaotic or have something dire going on.

I’m really into the way sound works in film, and I did a little bit of sound design for theater in college.

If you’re anything other than a white, cisgender, able-bodied dude, people are going to project narratives, imagery, and context onto you that you might not necessarily see for yourself.

Ariel is the most boring Disney princess.

A pink sneaker is like walking down the street at five miles per hour with a Starbucks in your hand. Nobody is getting in your way.

I feel like my transition, in a broader sense, began the second I left home and came to New York. Because all of a sudden, I opened myself up to options about how to be.

I’m fun, ruthless, articulate, impatient, maybe a little cavalier. I’m a woman and a feminist. I’m transgender. I’m an actress, a reluctant writer, occasionally a potato-shaped model.

I could have hidden in Boston and lived at home for three years, gone through my transition, taken voice lessons to make my voice more feminine, gotten gender reassignment surgery, and spent time to complete my transition, but I didn’t want to wait. I wanted to be in the world.

I think it’s an oversimplification of somebody’s worth to ‘cancel’ them. We’re so quick to cancel but also so quick to lift somebody up as ‘the queen,’ ‘the mom,’ ‘the dad,’ ‘the god.’

Fashion gave me the platform that has made this transition from fashion to Hollywood, from East Coast to West Coast. Fashion gave me the platform that has made this easier than it is for a lot of other people. And I will always count fashion as the industry that was first to welcome me and embrace what I could do.

When you’re making an independent film, there is no guarantee that anyone is going to see it, ever.

I want to see definitions of what’s beautiful, compelling, palatable, marketable, sexy, and prestigious open up to a wider range of bodies, identities, and backgrounds.

I don’t want the same trans story to be told over and over again. I don’t want people to get stuck on this very western idea of what it means to be transgender.

I admire actresses who are willing to jettison the easy route toward exposure and commercial success as an actor in favor or a slow burn, choosing projects carefully, and building an artistic practice over time that feels specific to who they are as artists.

Fragrance is important to me because of its emotional dimension. I feel like fragrances are able to transport, stir emotion, and bring up memories. You can wear makeup, you can dress yourself up, but fragrance gives a powerful aspect to how you can present yourself that you can’t necessarily get any other way.

Leaving the house in a pair of flip-flops in Manhattan is disgusting to me, no shade.

I’m a much better actor as a girl than I was as a guy.

Whatever surgery someone wants to get is none of your business.

People feel emboldened to say things on the Internet they wouldn’t in person.

To see a trans body in this ideal space – on a cover, in an ad – these are spaces that have immense cultural power to dictate what is beautiful, what is glamorous, what is aspirational, what is sexy, what is clean. That can be very powerful and helpful in the de-stigmatization of trans bodies.

I prefer men who are queer. Not gay men, but queer men – guys with an open mind. Bisexual men, because they’re able to understand the different elements of the body without judging that I don’t conform to a certain ideal.

I identify with Sad Girls.

Whether you’re a woman, a transwoman, a person of color, I feel like Instagram is really important for the creation and framing of the self.

I’m a different girl almost every time I look in the mirror.

I would like to produce, and eventually, I would like to direct.

There have been moments where I’ve had to question the way I’ve used social media and change it. Not because anything was wrong or right but because my needs had changed, and my perspective had changed.

Sometimes it feels like people can’t wrap their head around the notion that an ‘androgynous’ trans woman with shorter hair could be beautiful.

Fashion gave me my start, and that will always be my home. I’ll always be so grateful for all my collaborators and friends I’ve made there, but I’m so excited to dive head first into just being a working actor.

I like to let my skin breathe, I don’t like to stress it out. I don’t like to put it through very much.

What’s infuriating is when cis people think celebrating me is celebrating transness.

My identity will always inform my experience and shape my perception. But I am an unremarkable person.

There’s something very noble about the bowling shoe. It has very little pretense, and it’s kind of naughty. You have to share them with a bunch of other people, which is so kinky in a way that I like. What other shoes would you actively share with other people?

Trans folks are going to rise up for their moments and their money!

I’m very conscious and weary of the hype economy and the way people build things up just to tear them down.

I’ve certainly been in situations where I’ve been rejected and endangered and had my humanity put in question – just as almost every woman on the planet has.

I want to start the trans mafia one day.