You have to connect on emotion not logic. People go on dates and it becomes a CV exercise. Logic is someone asking ‘what do you do for a job?’ when you should ask ‘why do you do that? What is it you enjoy?’
If you want to meet a better quality man, you’re going to have to get used to taking more risks.
Love is closeness.
It’s powerful for a guy to know your exes have regrets.
Anything that a man hears is sexy is gold to him.
Anything that a man hears is sexy is gold to him.
A friend of mine once earnestly said to his girlfriend, ‘You look so pretty tonight,’ and she replied, ‘You’re such a dork.’ Her deflection was a total turn-off. It didn’t make him feel attractive, nor did it encourage him to keep complimenting her.
Ghosting’s a horrible thing, isn’t it? It doesn’t feel good, it feels like a rejection. And what’s more, it feels like a rejection where there’s no closure.
Just because someone isn’t allowing you to pay for the date, it doesn’t mean you can’t contribute on some level. For example, if someone took you for dinner and a movie, they may have paid for the dinner, they may have paid for the movie tickets, but then you buy the popcorn.
Plenty of casual daters will throw you off with maddening phrases like ‘I’m just enjoying having fun with you.’ This doesn’t make them a bad person, but it’s your call now how to respond. Just don’t assume ‘having fun’ or any such cliche means they’re going to suddenly decide they want a relationship next week.
Friendship language is, ‘You look nice tonight.’ Desire language is, ‘You look hot tonight.’
I really like classic, simple clothes.
I once told a date, ‘I love what you’re wearing!’ She replied, ‘Aw, thanks. I’ve gotten so many compliments on it. Yours means the most though!’ She didn’t need to tell me guys were hitting on her – my imagination went there anyway.
You have to connect on emotion not logic. People go on dates and it becomes a CV exercise. Logic is someone asking ‘what do you do for a job?’ when you should ask ‘why do you do that? What is it you enjoy?’
Your Friday and Saturday nights are sacred. When a new guy asks for a prime-time date early on, suggest drinks and make him the warm-up.
If he wants you over for the holidays or can’t wait for you to have dinner with his buddies, it’s a sign he wants them to love you as much as he does.
When someone feels truly in love, they feel certain. That means they lose any commitment-phobia and will want to find ways to bring you closer together.
Women often try too hard to say what they think a man wants to hear, to like what he likes, to laugh at every joke, and get so nervous talking about themselves that nothing interesting comes out.
Too many women are being chosen by men that they don’t choose.
You’d never be able to appreciate what’s good in life if you’ve never experienced the bad.
Too many people say they want someone extraordinary in their lives but they aren’t extraordinary themselves.
If he doesn’t follow through with actions, he’s either selfish or a liar. Neither makes him sound like The One, does it?
You invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.
If you’re in business and you make a sales call and that lead doesn’t buy from you, you don’t sit there all day mourning the loss of that lead. You go out there and make 10 more sales calls!
We live in a world of social media, dating apps, online profiles where everyone is portraying themselves in 2D, trying to look cool. Portray yourself in three dimensions.
When life hits you hard, it can throw you off course. But how you handle that adversity can teach you so much about yourself and change your perspective on what you actually want from life.
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re successful. You are successful if you are happy.
People don’t want to be put on the spot over whether or not they like you, they want to come to that conclusion themselves. It’s ok to let someone know you’re interested, but there’s no need to go any further than that.
Guys aren’t used to out-of-the-blue compliments.
You invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.
Women all think that if a guy likes you he will come and talk to you. That’s nonsense – ‘actually the opposite is true. The more attractive he finds you, the less likely it is he’ll talk to you.
By getting hurt, you might realize that what you thought you wanted and needed wasn’t actually right for you. And that’s a lesson only heartbreak and pain can teach you.
If he doesn’t follow through with actions, he’s either selfish or a liar. Neither makes him sound like The One, does it?
Don’t just praise a guy’s achievements. Praise the personality traits that made them possible.
Too many women are being chosen by men that they don’t choose.
Women are conditioned to believe Prince Charming is going to come and sweep them off their feet.
The key to asking someone out is to not really ask. In other words, don’t feel your sentence needs to end with a question mark.
I once told a date, ‘I love what you’re wearing!’ She replied, ‘Aw, thanks. I’ve gotten so many compliments on it. Yours means the most though!’ She didn’t need to tell me guys were hitting on her – my imagination went there anyway.
There’s nothing like a man watching a roomful of guys look his woman up and down to make him desire what he already has (and vice versa).
A friend of mine once earnestly said to his girlfriend, ‘You look so pretty tonight,’ and she replied, ‘You’re such a dork.’ Her deflection was a total turn-off. It didn’t make him feel attractive, nor did it encourage him to keep complimenting her.
There is literally no one on earth who isn’t interested in relationship dynamics, or how to meet someone special. Or if they’ve already met someone special, how to make that relationship as good as it can be. It’s a universal subject.
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