Words matter. These are the best Albert Ellis Quotes, and they’re great for sharing with your friends.
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.
People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
People don’t just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
I think it’s unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that’s the human condition.
In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.
Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.
Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I’ve received over the years.
I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren’t listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.
For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.
Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.
People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
You largely constructed your depression. It wasn’t given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it.
The art of love is largely the art of persistence.
If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.
I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist.
I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn’t love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.
I’m very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it – going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.
By not caring too much about what people think, I’m able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
There’s no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
