Top 60 Daniel Goleman Quotes

A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt ‘Don’t bother me – I’ve got important work to do.’

Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.

The basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.

When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.

If you are doing mindfulness meditation, you are doing it with your ability to attend to the moment.

I don’t think focus is in itself ever a bad thing. But focus of the wrong kind, or managed poorly, can be.

Motivation aside, if people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn’t distinguish between being a more empathic manager and a more empathic father.

Buying phosphate-free soap allows you to say, ‘My detergent doesn’t have the harsh chemicals others do.’ The question is, how are you washing with it? The very worst thing for the Earth about detergent is that we heat water to use it.

The book is a dialogue between The Dalai Lama and a group of scientists about how we can better handle our destructive emotions and how to overcome them.

Well, any effort to maximize your potential and ability is a good thing.

While there I began to study the Asian religions as theories of mind.

When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.

But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job.

A prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain.

A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt ‘Don’t bother me – I’ve got important work to do.’

If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.

The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.

However, I began meditating at about that time and have continued on and off over the years.

Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings.

Some children naturally have more cognitive control than others, and in all kids this essential skill is being compromised by the usual suspects: smartphones, TV, etc. But there are many ways that adults can help kids learn better cognitive control.

Emotions are contagious. We’ve all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.

In politics, readily dismissing inconvenient people can easily extend to dismissing inconvenient truths about them.

If you are doing mindfulness meditation, you are doing it with your ability to attend to the moment.

Once shoppers become empowered, we will facilitate industries thinking in completely new terms; for example, making products that are totally biodegradable.

Whenever we feel stressed out, that’s a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.

I don’t think focus is in itself ever a bad thing. But focus of the wrong kind, or managed poorly, can be.

True compassion means not only feeling another’s pain but also being moved to help relieve it.

Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness.

The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.

Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That’s why they look alike.

I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.

But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job.

But there has also been a notable increase in recent years of these applications by a much wider slice of psychotherapists – far greater interest than ever before.

Buying phosphate-free soap allows you to say, ‘My detergent doesn’t have the harsh chemicals others do.’ The question is, how are you washing with it? The very worst thing for the Earth about detergent is that we heat water to use it.

There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy… They’re controlled by different parts of the brain.

People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.

Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings. This is part of teaching emotional literacy – a set of skills we can all develop, including the ability to read, understand, and respond appropriately to one’s own emotions and the emotions of others.

Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings. This is part of teaching emotional literacy – a set of skills we can all develop, including the ability to read, understand, and respond appropriately to one’s own emotions and the emotions of others.

My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs – in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.

Some children naturally have more cognitive control than others, and in all kids this essential skill is being compromised by the usual suspects: smartphones, TV, etc. But there are many ways that adults can help kids learn better cognitive control.

Brain studies of mental workouts in which you sustain a single, chosen focus show that the more you detach from what’s distracting you and refocus on what you should be paying attention to, the stronger this brain circuitry becomes.

The social brain is in its natural habitat when we’re talking with someone face-to-face in real time.

Emotions are contagious. We’ve all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.

Social distance makes it all the easier to focus on small differences between groups and to put a negative spin on the ways of others and a positive spin on our own.

Western business people often don’t get the importance of establishing human relationships.

Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.

Smart phones and social media expand our universe. We can connect with others or collect information easier and faster than ever.

Brain studies of mental workouts in which you sustain a single, chosen focus show that the more you detach from what’s distracting you and refocus on what you should be paying attention to, the stronger this brain circuitry becomes.

In politics, readily dismissing inconvenient people can easily extend to dismissing inconvenient truths about them.

There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy… They’re controlled by different parts of the brain.

The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.

We need to re-create boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget that creates a virtual link to the office, you need to create a virtual boundary that didn’t exist before.

Western business people often don’t get the importance of establishing human relationships.

Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.

The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.

The amygdala in the emotional center sees and hears everything that occurs to us instantaneously and is the trigger point for the fight or flight response.

People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.

Companies in the East put a lot more emphasis on human relationships, while those from the West focus on the product, the bottom line. Westerners appear to have more of a need for achievement, while in the East there’s more need for affiliation.