Top 77 Helen Fisher Quotes

Men want to think women don’t cheat, and women want men to think they don’t cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other.

Overdone lipstick is a deterrent to men. It rubs off easily onto their skin and the edges of their shirts, so it discourages them from kissing, touching, and coming closer to you, which is what they really want to do!

Women have a better sense of smell than men do, and it’s even sharper in the middle of their menstrual cycle, when estrogen levels peak and women are more likely to be deciding whether a man’s attractive.

Men have a psychological need to show off their courage and strength. When he sees you talking to another guy, that instinct kicks in and he jumps to protect you and prove he’s worthy of your love.

There’s more than one person on the planet. When you’re madly in love, that’s not what you think.

As social animals, we need to exchange juicy tales about someone – to connect with one another. For millions of years our forebears must have sat around the campfire, whispering about everyone they knew.

A hundred years ago, if you had a child out of marriage, you’d be a social disgrace. Today women feel comfortable enough economically and culturally to bring up a child without a recognized commitment from a man.

A lot of people have been romantically in love with somebody who they feel wasn’t appropriate to marry.

Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there’s a potential for a relationship.

I think romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your mating energy on just one individual at a time, thereby conserving mating time and energy.

Women are naturally prone to compete over their mates.

After a man falls madly in love, he no longer cares how old she is.

Barriers tend to intensify romance. It’s called the ‘Romeo and Juliet effect.’ I call it ‘frustration attraction.’

We evolved in a tropical climate where the smells of plants and flowers were all around us. We spent a lot of time in the trees with a lot of sunlight and no clothes.

There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.

From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types – each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.

Your face and head give more information about you than any other body part.

Men couldn’t care less if your strands are perfectly styled and neat. In fact, he might like you more with some wildness or bedhead, since it shows you’re carefree and relaxed.

Liberals and conservatives are looking for entirely different things. Their attitudes toward romance and how they court are really dramatically different. There’s almost no overlap.

Hair that gleams can send a clear sign that you’re young and in your prime, whatever your actual age.

Good-looking people are always looking for other good-looking people.

Men fall in love faster than, and just as often as, women.

You can be instantly scared. You can be instantly happy. So why can’t you be instantly romantically in love? I think when it happens, it’s because you are ready to fall in love.

A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.

As a group, anthropologists are not too fond of people who work in the business world.

Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.

Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido.

The women’s movement is just a symptom of basic changes in the economy that are favoring women.

There’s every reason to think SSRIs blunt your ability to fall and stay in love.

I think that property is very important in this day and age. It defines you; you worked hard to get it. It’s meaningful to you, and when you divorce, a lot of people have a lot of battles over their property for good reasons.

You can really get poked in the back and not feel it very much, but just a feather around your lips and you really do feel it.

Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you’ve been rejected.

Neither gender is routinely more jealous – although women are more willing to work to win back a lover, while men tend to flaunt their money and status and are more likely to walk out to protect their self-esteem or save face.

Since when is anyone truly honest with anyone?

When you fight, anger drives up testosterone in both men and women.

There’s a lot of talk about the positive aspects of love. We as a society downplay the danger, the anxiety, and the disappointment. We romanticize romance.

We still have community, but we don’t seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother’s down the street, they’re not in arm’s length.

Jealousy can even be good for love. One partner may feel secretly flattered when the other is mildly jealous. And catching someone flirting with your beloved can spark the kind of lust and romance that reignites a relationship.

Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young… This whole idea of ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ is exactly how we’re supposed to live.

Men tend to be hierarchical, but women are driven to make lateral connections so they can cooperate.

Almost always, when I’m on TV, the producers who call me, who negotiate what we’re going to say, is a woman.

We’re apt to fall in love with those who are mysterious and challenging to us.

Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to – at best – three years.

When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.

Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.

Despite the myth that men are less committed, they are predisposed to desire marriage.

Touch is the mother of the senses. Not only are women more sensitive when they touch, but they’re also more sensitive to being touched.

In courtship, who wins and who loses will determine who passes on their DNA to tomorrow.

It’s almost as if men who get tribal tattoos are trying to signal that they are dangerous, they’re to be respected, and they’re powerful.

Of all the foods we share, there is nothing more primordial than meat. It’s no surprise that meat-eaters still want a partner who will give, receive and share this primordial symbol of a budding partnership.

Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.

For men, being too put-together implies femininity.

I can’t conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.

For so many generations, a woman’s only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.

Office romances are few, short, and not usually destructive.

You know, when you’ve been dumped, the one thing you love to do is just forget about this human being, and then go on with your life – but no, you just love them harder.

Women are very attracted to a low voice because it’s linked to testosterone, which for millions of years was a sign that men had very good spacial skills and would have been very good at hunting and finding their way back home.

You size up someone physically in less than one second – too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, too old, too young, too stuffy, too scruffy.

I think the happiness we find, we make.

The human brain is built to compare; it’s Darwinian to consider an alternative when one presents itself.

Games are the way we keep romance alive. They’re based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.

Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.

Women are better at reading body language everywhere in the world. As a matter of fact, it’s associated with the female hormone estrogen. Women are better at figuring out of tone of voice, reading your face and posture and gesture.

Any time you choose not to hide your tattoo, you’re limiting your social sphere, because they’re not popular in big business.

When somebody leaves Match.com or Chemistry.com, they ask you why you left. One box you can check is, ‘I found somebody.’ Between 15 and 20 percent of people check that box.

The Internet lets women use words, which is their natural tool. Little girls speak in more complex, grammatical sentences than little boys do, and women never lose that superiority in verbal ability.

A woman will toss her head and a man will say, ‘Oh she’s trying to pick me up,’ when in fact she’s not doing that at all. So, women actually have to be a little careful with what they do, because men will pick up things that they didn’t mean.