We’re not very dangerous animals; we don’t have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.
More and more of us live segmented, compartmentalized lives. This isn’t natural. For millions of years, our forebears knew everyone around them and everyone knew them.
Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men.
People kill for love. They die for love.
In that early-love stage, you’re in that state of exhilaration. You talk till dawn. You become obsessed with ‘What does he think?’ ‘Does he like me?’ ‘Does he think I’m fat?’
The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm. And romantic love is not calm – it’s elation, it’s mood swings, and you’re killing all that when you take the drug.
The brain was not built to walk into a bar, where you know nobody, and start a conversation. That’s not the way humanity has courted.
Until recently, we regarded love as supernatural. We were willing to study the brain chemistry of fear and depression and anger but not love.
I was married and divorced at 23.
Once you fall for someone, their smell can be a powerful thing. Women will wear their boyfriends’ T-shirts, and throughout tales in history men have held on to their lover’s handkerchief.
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